A woman can rely on traditional views, and use positive feminine traits, but if one desire a particular pattern of masculinity not all men will conform to it.

Divine orders are reflective of the environment and beliefs of people of certain views and environments. Not all one size fits given the sheer variety of humanity around us. If one look at the DNA and genome, animals are very similar, with a few offsets, but there is still more than a binary set of choices too.

It is how Roman Catholicism the original root of all christianity has slight deviations (sects) over the centuries, and how much Catholicism is different than Judaism, and yet it runs off a similar book.

The #1 most important gift is free will.

If we look at what Christ stated, he even stated throw out the other rules and the #1 was to love thy neighbor (which in today's life and society we fail epically).

As for life, if a woman was born on the Hawaiian Islands pre-annexation of the modern culture, traditional would have a different view. Yet God created that society as it did others in China, Africa, Mongolia, Europe etc.

Men can pursue women, and if women desire a good man, they can do the same. It is all up to them and their belief structure (presuming it is good and wholesome).