Agree with you, I can't imagine how being on high alert at all times must epically suck. I will never understand that aspect and angle.
If you are a happy outgoing person by default this is a double hell, because you have to wear a mask over your soul.
I know masks, I wore many to make it through the day and trying to survive that energy burn ... sucked.
So write about being angry, call out those that offend you, and one suggestion I would make.
If you feel unsafe, take a self defense course, boxing, karate/craw magra etc ... The confidence you will gain by doing so may payback in spades.
It is horrible you have to live like this and this is wrong 100%. I know as a guy if I am in the presence of this happening I will say something and do something, but that does little for you in the here and now.
Please be safe, and I hope a day that the evils from the patriarchy are no longer and both men and women feel safe to live open and honest and respectful with one another.
Be well and I am sorry you feel this pain.