All humans need love and touch to live. They also need care, compassion, and desire thrown at them.
When women have to walk down this path, they should embrace the sex and desire, but then also question why are they in a commitment with the person that should be loving them.
Boys will notice it, as you are their primary parent. It is sad that the biology man next to you has made you a single parent. Neglect is abuse. You are not the neglectful one, but remember use this to help heal yourself, but also remember boys will see the patterns and mimic.
They should see a strong and independent woman, who in turns expects a strong and nurturing man who cares about this female partner. This teaches them how to be a man, and if they catch you be prepared to try to explain it. For the other side effect, it will teach is that males maybe considered disposable. You will need to teach them why and if they love their biological male faux parent, then that conflict will cause a rip in the masculinity that will reverberate thought time.
Do understand I have zero issue with a woman getting her needs met. She should be happy, free, and independent.
She should also not have to kill her feminity to save her children or herself, but do remember boys today don’t grow up now, and you have the chance to make them into real men who care and love for women.
My heart reaches out to you in your time of pain and suffering, so please don’t interpret this as shame. It is not my intention.
If you feel bad call your lover up and go have a nooner. 😀