Appreciation of how hard it is to be the initial spark and the constant rejection and invisibility guys feel will be one of the things women will see/get.
My poor person's analogy to the madness. Women at a core level don't mind being equal and stepping up; however, one of the things they may not realize is they fear of appearing to overly brash like a lot of men who have done the same to them.
The knowledge that hunger and thirst for another of the opposite sex/gender can make someone attempt assertive and come out aggressive and awkward says oh shit ... I am just like the guys that I put down.
Great example? Jane The Virgin and her larger friend who was openly sexual and wanting men.
One positive view of #metoo has been men have been more risk averse and conscious of what and how they act. The problem is given the drift in masculinity, men don't have any solid ground for confidence anymore since traditional patriarchal bounds and walls have been deconstructed. There are shards of walls still there, but in reality they offer false protection.
Women need to understand that aspect is men are still trying to figure out the issues, but the biggest thing is to understand that women aren't the enemy and if they are scared. They should really talk to the thing they most desire.
Sure there will be shit women (or really faux women/girls), but if they find a good one. IT will make a world of difference.