As a guy and seeing this play-out, it came down to guys shaming other guys. It isn't like man Al or whomever is a lucky guy look how happy they are, it is the toxic things you can imagine, that I won't repeat.

I have even seen the opposite in grooming from football player friends in college. One guy who was more alternative in sexual practices (we got along because he knew I was kink friendly [this was the 90s]). State he always had his girls heavier and then helped them work out and got skinny and he would go find another over and over.

I wasn't mentally seasoned enough or mature or smart enough ( I was damaged you know as I shared), but I did know this didn't seem right or moral.

But compare this against some guys that would literally be with 4-5 women on a weekend.

What I know now, what I wish knew back then is the damage to self confidence to the women that were groupies and what not was pretty bad.

The messed up thing is while it isn't as bad as it was in the 1990s, it is still there and one has multiple generation of biological males "trained" in this way. Once it has happened, it can never be undone.

The one thing that makes me happy is when women have more power and confidence they don't fall into this trap, but that still doesn't truly solve the issue. It just marginalizes it to a smaller chunk of men and women damaged for the rest of their life.

Sadly, as I believe I have shared is now guys even deep into Gen Z may not have the wholesome view that leads to amazing intimacy and sex and are learning what they need from porn.

The void where desire goes and never is repaid ...

On my side, what I learned is always found I was more interested in Persian, central american, and a different genetic diversity. Why? I believe my body and mind knows genetically I need something outside of my European heritage and it has always "nudged" me in that direction.

These are things I have figured out on my travels, that most guys will never do since it doesn't fit or conform to societies standards ....

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.