As a man, I can raise a glass to this, as this is something I have found happen a lot to guys.
My running joke to this for men is:
Why is God a jokester? He provided men with two brains but only enough blood for one of them.
It sucks that in life though, people who would never cause tremendous pain, presume that people act and live with the same civility.
Then things go horribly wrong.
Such a horrible experience, I wish you and other tremendously good people never have to go through ...