As a natural switch, I know the goal when dominate, to work my partner’s submission as close to the yellow safe word as possible and have them linger and with any luck push them deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole.
This takes love, trust, communication, desire, and the ability to read.
On ex loved to be spanked really hard …. so with tears streaming down her face and when I knew one more hit would make her use the safe word, that is when I would pull out her favorite vibrator and get her worked up.
Then I would say …. 1 or 10 more and she knew she was always in charge but not ….
Great write up ….. and as Nike likes to say …. Just Do It ….