As equality works it’s a way through, and given the invisible hells which society (esp. patriarchal based ones) has beaten down men. This will be the major thing that will propel society into a better place and state.
If we use analogies of systemic racism, with the issues within masculinity which everyone ignores full out, then we can learn starting now and until the future will require a lot of work through multiple generations to fix.
Some folks will say “fuck” this, or they hurt me so they can hurt themselves, and that is a valid response; however, it continues the issues and passes the issues down to the next generation.
I know the level of energy and effort I needed to get to the point. I don’t know how many men are willing to dig out of the hole they are in, for what some may see as a non-gain gain.
If I step back and we look at this, women have had to dig out of a hole, and whether men realize it or not some are falling into that same hole and now have to dig out of it (or use a ledge in a hole where women have climbed up higher then men and now men have to climb up.
Unlearning a traditional mindset and only keeping the truly positive and good intent aspects of traditions for some (i.e. the nuance) is not an easy thing when golden handcuffs are involved.
We shall see will be the phrase. The only thing that will suck as women climb out of the hole and play and move forward and look around and ask where are the guys at we do love and enjoy them …
It will be a hard thing to watch looking down at the hole …