Casual Sex = mutual masturbation where there is a high probability that only one person gets off, and a very good chance that no one gets off.

It is why IMO, when folks talk about the greatness of casual sex it isn't the process but the rarity that both get off with a massive "bang".

Is it wrong to do? No, but understand it is two (or more) people who are so thirsty they are willing to drink "anything" to satisfy the thirst.

The odd thing is while people in society tend to shame those that self-love as basement dwelling trolls, the reality is the trolls are above ground because real damage and real consequences happen.

Then in the modern era you add smart apps, and viola, it is like reality porn for those that don't want the "dirty" of tube sites and want to believe they are different, better, and what not.

So great "Al" how very prudish of you ... well I can't say I was any better when I was young, dumb, and full of cum. But, one of the greatest curses a person can get (getting raped), taught me something very very important.

Connection matters. I personally worked through it and I started to observe the dance. I noticed those 8's and 9's and 10's I was banging were like meh. Then I noticed the Heather's the Julie's the "real woman's names who were not "those numbers" and I found the sex was better. Then .... drum roll .... when I stoped me from getting mine, and was all in on taking care of her first (#bingo) ....

In fact, for some women in the 1990s it was like a foreign thing to them. Some got confused and thought I was gay and said so ... but then I started to understand the importance of creativity, making my partner curious, and well you know ... holding off on the D or taking my time.

I didn't know what it was at the time, but I found when I spent the evening (or literally all night) taking her to the edge and stopping and then doing it again ... yeah you know the end of that story.

I never ever put someone down for needing to deal with the thirst though. Everyone has to process through this stage of the mating and dating game, but one does need to evolve past it.

If thirst is making a person do the "wrong thing" that feels kind of ok with the wrong person, then one should probably invest in toys and self pleasure because even great sex with a person that doesn't work out communication or personality wise is usually the apex point of the relationship. From there it is all down hill.

When in reality one wants to climb up the tree trunk of their partner and make their branches shake like in a 50 mph wind and listen to them howl (and for guys ... making your female partner "cry" in a good way.

So as for me .... I am on Team Beccia with this, but I don't hate if you hate in return.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.