Common chivalry (from a male point of view) states that the man is supposed to walk near the curb since cars and other things have a higher probability of attacking the partner.

Let me preface this as I get the real issue is active listening and communicating here and working through needs and biases …..

His view is stating, I am protecting you and now you are saying you don’t need protecting, and now I am in “trouble” for protecting you wrong and not protecting you when you need protected.

My attempt at logically communicating it from a guy perspective is.

Honey I appreciate your protection from the cars and I understand how you have made the risk decision that the cars are more dangerous in your view and I love you for it.

My view is I can see the cars and can react ok and can protect myself better on the curb side, where I can see what is coming. I need your protection from the things I can’t see and it scares me a lot more, can you help me there please?

Women are superbly amazing at the context and depth in communication a = d when all letters are equal (e.g.). Men are logical and simple a= b … b = c … c =d … oh I get you … a = d

As for your shares … I truly appreciate it as it helps me personally, since in a way while on the exterior I am the big and thick and wide Texan male, as a survivor of abuse and rape … I am like you. There are day I need touch badly, but I cringe when she touches me. I want and desire sex badly (I have the male sexual energy in abundance), but I need mental and heart connection which is closed due to trust issues.

So I feel ya and your shares are an inspiration.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.