Congratulations on your evolution! Bravo!

On 2020/06/13, I came out to a friend what I finally figured out about myself. I am a Pansexual.

The thing is though, I need (due to harsh environmental conditioning) connection, and my desire given my very strong and assertive (shall we say aggressive) masculinity is a strong feminine spirit.

Yin and Yang

So what I realized is if there was a person born as a biological male, but was extremely strong feminine wise, I could find myself attracted to them.

What about strong alpha women that are CIS? Love them, because my inner boy and masculine warrior wants to play and wrestle and have fun.

I so very much hate seeing people labeled and force assuming gender and sexuality. People are infinitely layered.

If my partnership ends and I start fresh and new, I do know there will be lots of talks with my future partner about her desires and what not. If she/they has desires for other women. I am all-in on making sure that she/they have the freedom to explore and be whole with their sexuality. There is one's heart and mind/soul, and there is one's desire and passion.

People will get confused and concerned and incorrectly label statements like I stated as not caring or loving a person fully or desiring them.

My view is the most important thing I have learned with fighting through a dysfunctional and damaged relationship for years (and of course owning up to the shit-ton of reasons it has issues is due to me) is this:

Honesty, openness, and communication are the bricks and morter and foundation/cornerstone of the entire relationship. Heart and soul and love is the energy that keeps the house warm in winter and cool in summer. The genders of the person or the fun and crazy sexuality they do in the house is what comes from that relationship, and not what truly defines them or the relationship.

I hope/wish/pray you find the partners that make your heart sing and love and jump for joy.

Spread those legs, open your heart, and remember to embrace your feelings. You are a free spirit and woman that any action is purely positive, no matter the person you are with.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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