Due to my trauma from childhood, I was a guy that fell into masturbation through prone masturbation, because the female babysitter abuse trained me to not be able to go by hand or oral (oral still is a no go to this day).

So 5.4 minutes was not in my cards as my self-love took longer, and sadly I didn't know due to shame and what not it was not a good way for a guy to "get off".

The advantages? Well, between my ability to give oral and other fun things (remember I learned patience the hard way) and when I was ready to go ... I could last a very very long time.

Some women that I slept with loved it "a lot", some felt inadequate because they struggled to get me off.

My running joke after a threesome where both fantastic women were wiped out (and they said how the fuck did that happen) was ... first woman to make me orgasm orally would be my mate for life.

I now know I am an outlier, but as I see and learned that was not at all a bad thing.

It taught me so much when I caught up and did the therapy and became a feminist (wish I did so earlier in life), it is one of the things I thanked the abuser for ...

The ability to understand and connect was priceless, just like this analysis and article!