Even in my most broken state, my goal always was to make her orgasm first. A few ex's this really really bothered since they felt they were being put on a pedestal (OP knows the reasons, if you want to know respond).
A woman shouldn't have to ask. Some guys will say what about me?
My rational is simple, a woman can get pregnant and die. They are taking the big risk in the end game of this, so my view is pony up the tongue, the fingers, the toes, hell whatever she wants and game on.
I know that I will fuck up. I know I will be clumsy, and I know I will say something by mistake that will make a person say dude, ugh, WTF .... So those that give, get in the long term
Ena Dahl and woman kind ... a person must be this empathically tall, this sympathy wide, and have good intent in the heart as deep as the deepest ocean, and passion to the hottest sun.
If not ... meh .... pass her the favorite vibrator and realize you may need to be educated.