Exactly, anger output means a person is not "reading" the environment and signs.

Someone that is defensive and hurt and angry, requires a person (especially if male) to stop, look, and actively listen. Solutions are not requested, but simple concise questions (if one doesn't know the issue) are the only question.

i.e.

How can I help or what is wrong is there something I can help you with ...

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.