Exactly. As you are well versed and know very well, the traditional tropes of gender are only right twice a day like a broken clock.
The biggest thing I learned was fucking sometimes is no different then mutual masturbation with a high chance of one or more of the parties "not gettnig off".
One wonders if that time in Vermont if you spent it getting a fully body massage along with the me-fun-time if it would have been more rewarding.
But that is not for me to know, and your path through this thing called life.
Awesome personal share (As always)