Exactly. I see quite a few writers women (and some men) focusing on all of the baggage and trauma of the past, that they don't realize the mirror they are, shows the damage.

In a world full of pain and suffering, who wants to absorb more damage?

There was one article about a woman who lives in Canada and can't stand the passivity of men who don't come up to her.

It speaks volumes of a person in how they act and do especially with strangers.