Exactly. It is good to see this forbidden topic is being raised, because I can imaging how much better a life I could have had if any of this stuff was available in the 1990s.

To quote an ex-girlfriend after an ED response due to being raped a week earlier ...

You must be gay.

You must have asked for it.

Look at you and how big you are, there is no way you could have been raped.

I was passed out drunk and stoned and came to it.

My coping mechanism initially was self-deprecating humor in which I joked and said when seeing blood in my underwear and down my leg ... Look I had my first period.

Then I went hyper alpha toxic guy bedding as many women as I could to prove I wasn't gay, and that I was manly.

I woke up in 2015 and did therapy and did #metoo and then healed, but it still hasn't fully repaired the massive damage within me from the bottling up of the hot mess.

I have had in social media when I attempted to verbalize responses to hot social topic in sharing how I had communication issues, stop using victim hood as an excuse.

I realized at that point there were quite a few women that were chauvinists, since it bothered them my story and history effected their message. I always wanted to say it isn't an or "or" but situation but an "and" ... but whatever ...

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.