Excellent share and kudos to you for taking the leap. It also highlights something that most alpha type of people sometimes don’t get.
I would have read into the first time and said here is a woman that likes intercourse and penetration, so if oral is involved make sure a second round in bed happens. Or. Lay down in bed and say cowgirl up.
Personally (I am a natural switch), anyone that subs for the first time should never be left alone (IMO). Time, coffee, drink, etc should have been done since you were going to come down from being topped.
To me what he did was a no-no but also understand that as a dom/alpha I will work as hard as I would as I would as a submissive. My view is to say done and walk away is a lazy thing but that is my opinion (YMMV).
I have said this before, you ability to be all in is an amazing thing to see. Your writing is also top notch, and I know if I was in Australia I would definitely want you as my council.
Thank you for this extra awesome article.