For women that prefer a traditional view definitely, she needs to be the CEO of the house, which means her partner needs to take orders from the boss.
That means, ensuring equality at all levels in the partnership and family. That means is he doing the emotional and adulting work so it is 50/50.
While that happens, are you able to do the social changes and support, and even help him with his masculinity to be whole? I.e. does he ensure his male friends are good ones?
If child rearing takes a lot of energy, is there a plan for you to be free and independent? Conversely, for him are things being done to keep his stress levels low and his health up?
Is it a lot of work? You betcha, and that requires a true leader which should be a feminist.