Great article. On the guy side of things an appreciation of the energy required to manage those “tabs” and close them down too.

As for guys, the next most important thing to work on then is communication, because if they do pick up and execute the emotional and physical labor parts of the relationship … they will find out they too get worn out and need to communicate it non-aggressively back.

Communication will be key. Women of course observe and listen well, but they will also need to know that the side effect of this may require intimacy of a non-penetration kind since guys will be exposed and vulnerable in a way that can be very damaging to their psyche too and because of how our society has pounded into men they have limited experience in the down side.

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