“Healthy sex doesn’t have to be delicate and bland, but when we define “boring sex” as “sex that caters to women and has even the slightest regard for their responses, both verbal and bodily,” that’s where we have a problem.”

This is the easy yet hard yet easy question to answer. What guys don’t realize as they age is that the same thing they watch over and over guy is up and ready to go 24x7 will eventually and karmically slap them in the face when it doesn’t come up and their partner is ready to go.

No matter how traditionally “studly” a man feels, when a women feels loved, safe, secure and is in the zone, I can bet “dollars to donuts” he will learn who the stronger sex is (not saying this in an objectification or alpha/beta way).

Great sex always involves communication in a clear and concise and open way, since no one can read another persons mind and it requires constant give and take and swapping of roles in a defined manner.

I still chuckle to myself whenever I see an article about the urban definition of a “unicorn”. Why? Because the real unicorn is what is labeled as a CIS male who is strong and vulnerable and open with his partner. On the flip side if a partner finds a person like that are they truly open and ready to go without games to ride that unicorn ….

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