I agree with this sentiment and personally am open to my partner doing this, the reality though is she uber traditional.

Why would I be into it? I want her to feel the power and rush of taking a person. I want to feel what she says when she says she feels full. I have heard from my gay friends who dabble in both giving and receiving that the orgasm when receiving blows out of the water the giving.

I am also more endowed and can cause my partner discomfort if I am not careful, so conversely, I want her to be in that position too.

One of my deep fantasies is that she comes super hard while penetrating me. There are feeldoes and women can wear a vibrating clip that goes rides in the g-spot and on the “clit” that can be worn under the harness.

I desire full equality in my bedroom.

I have a racy thought that stated imagine a world where men respected and women took charge in making sure that some of the early shared orgasms between the couples where when the guy had to orgasm from the p-spot … maybe we would have orgasm equality ….. for guys that are averse to it … they have to ask why …. since men have a prostate …. which is a pleasurable spot.

I do know if my relationship ended (I would be very sad) …. I very much desire this with my next partner. I don’t put a lot of redlines in relationships since I believe in unconditional love, but I want to experience my fantasies since this kind of fantasy (with consent and love) IMO is a noble and good one.


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