I am glad I did the work (personally) . Did the therapy, figured out the toxic culture of masculinity (man box), became a feminist, worked on the trigger points, started questioning "every" assumption.
Also, learned to open up "and" trust.
I will tell you what I was surprised with in the past few weeks at how angry I was at our country, the GOP, and folks that were conservative and pro-life (I was pro-life up until 2017).
It has taken considerable time and energy to focus the anger and energy as not to engage any previous patterns from traditional upbringing, masculinity etc.
To put a phrase around it, I see it as removing 1A or 2A in the country 100%.
I even for the first time posted on my personal social media page about abortion stuff e.g. and had discussions where I got to be labled as being "out there"
Miscarriage = homicide inquiries
I even posted in the last 12 months items from Oklahoma and El Salvador to back my statement.
All I know at this point any person who pontificates pro-life they get interrogated with their positions on health care, education, costs for women in pregnancy and children (foster/adoption) and all that.
They state pro-life, they are guilty until proven innocent since they are anti-women. "but not me in my personal life" some will say.
No.
You made and applauded this day, you prayed for it, and now lack of action on any of the things before and now (12-18 month window to fix) will make the determination of how anti-woman you are or pro-woman.
In my life I don't do bigots, and folks that harm others.
If I was single, pro-choice by default, pro-life you need to prove it with action for friendship or more. For folks like this have pushed their beleifs and wills on others, so one doesn't get gray space to live. Black and white and move on.
It is disgusting.
The messed up part are these folks who are religious but obviously fail morality and ethics and the theology of it believe they are noble and pure and all of the above.
They aren't. You may get brownier points on the ethics scale for "saving" babies. But you lose it for violating free will, stating you can judge others like god, failing to love thy neighbor, and being hypocritical.
Morality is allowing free will and all access and working hard to ensure women don't want to have an abortion or execute one without shame or blame or fear.
You are right ... dig a hole and place the bar of authentic / good man and you will see not man will go pick it up out of that whole, call another to hold the other side and to raise it up.
