I am so sorry for your awful experience. The fact he didn't tell you a very important relationship status meant he forced your consent on intimacy.

Adultery will be a charged topic with people and while it is about intimacy the hard part is the lack of true communication between two people.

Being transgender and having that hidden doubles that pain, in ways I can't even imagine.

It is a basic common courtesy. E g. I find transgender women very be sexy, but When communicating I let people know I am married. This is so they know the boundaries are there, but that doesn't mean one can't have friendship and conversation. It means the circles of life if I become single I am open.

This IMO is the common respect women of all wonderful flavors deserve. I hope you find the high quality partner in your life to enjoy your slender physical shoulders and your broad shoulder mind in life.

Be well ❤️‍🩹