I could have written quite a bit this topic (it is about masculinity, which is something I know very well), but I took the time and energy to be concise and choose my words and amount of words appropriately. So I will correct you on your "dismissive" comment, and since I have a full time job and a horse farm, and maintain a relationship which means pulling my share at home, I don't spend my day commenting as much as I used to.

I have no doubt in your travels and communication that you have had quite a few interactions with men and their "man box" views. You are also right it is killing men, and causing a lot of issues and concerns for men and women and children and society (and all genders).

I was that guy the author talked about, and I started working on it in 2015, and continued to fight through it. Therapy, self-help books, talking and what not.

I used writing as therapy (tens of thousands of dollars), forced vulnerability in larger shared groups, and worked on limiting the defensiveness, and learning to try to communicate better.

Masculinity is something I can talk to and about and own and I am free to make mistakes in this arena of life for it is what I am, while I will be careful about what and how I discuss about femininity, since I don't have the experience.

I liked Elle's article. She did a great job of communicating on a sensitive topic. Your communication here and on many other threads has a very masculine approach. While I can appreciate it since I am a guy, how you have worded things here and in the past has not been stellar.

I have observed this about your commentary in the past, and you are very aggressive with someone for which you have limited knowledge or experience.

Be well, what could be interesting while I don't see you as an enemy but definitely not a friend, is if you would write an article about your experience, history, and what not.

I do see value in the communication as differing points of view can make stronger connections and what not, so this is the intent on conversing back.

--

--

--

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

More from Medium

A Note on ‘No’

Five Awful Things People Say to the Chronically Ill

Is the iPhone 8 still worth it?

Potty Training a Strong Willed Toddler