I feel like my prayers to higher powers have come true. I am so happy for you both. The gift you gave to the beaten down nice man karmically was returned to you.
You are learning to deal with the trauma and releasing your soul from the demons that taunted you and mocked you, and your inner masculine and feminine warriors have cut that demon down.
You are liberated and empowered, and now you can live free. Your husband's masculinity is a north star. He should be commended, because he is in love with you, wants you, and look at the hills of pain, the tears of torment, and the dull ache of darkness he fought back. To get love and light in his heart, so that his "main" sun rises to meet your heart.
He did this, and most importantly you were his ally. Your leadership and feminism is a testament to why women should lead, and men should learn to listen, be empathic, and love with the hearts and minds, and not with their cocks.