I had numerous "discussions" about topics over the years and some folks through out the privilege card (or some iteration of it) and they are 100% free to do so, and even had some valid points.

But I bit my tongue numerous times, because what I had wanted to say for many years.

Yes I have privilege, but I haven't had any children (wasn't lucky, blessed, whatever), and I have consistently put more into society via taxes and fees then I have taken out for decades of my life.

So while I am privilged, I am accountable are you? Did you pay the minimum of pre-COVID of $14,000 in federal taxes a year to pay your part to keep our country running along with everything else?

What I never told them is I spend time reading books by minorities and feminism (I am a white guy), and I try in private to help support those organizations with money where I can because my time is very limited.

At some point, I realized these folks loved living in bias or trauma based fear from the past, and I what I did was step back and let them vent over and over and over about how evil group or person X is. The more rancid they became the further I stepped back, and I learned to look for others that were kind and respectful and took the time to research their "shit".

Like you.

Dunno if it helps anyone but that is my share.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.