I have felt personally and seen quite a few guys in my travels walk into gender battles with big and open hearts, but no experience get shattered against the wall, by women who are so hurt and damaged that it creates a situation where stereotyping occurs.
The issue I see in the modern media environment is the vacuum of men talking about masculinity is so thin, that women invade the space (trying to help) and dominate the conversation, with their viewpoints and needs.
This is not an entirely bad thing, since it provides the necessary feedback, but it leads to (using modern terminology) women womensplaing masculinity, which if the roles were reversed would be highly toxic.
There is something guys can learn from this part of the dance, though. How women have felt when men make genderized assumptions, it hurts and sucks.
Even with guys that have evolved and can be seen in CIS heterosexual relationships where equality or the roles are switched, it is still there (using ED and cheating and divorce rates as the canary in the coal mines).