I have observed the number one spank bank material for D/S is male oriented. If the world was different or more female-oriented, the dominance would be radically different.

One example I can think of would be something like a CFNM orientation, along with the strict controls you state.

Tease/Denial/Edging (sans cage)

Submission through service etc.

Men can definitely add some interesting twists to the mix too, but instead of being the meat to the dish, it would be the spices and salt.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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