I have similar views coming from the male side (trauma). When I was learning feminism to rebuild my masculinity, I fell into a small group who were TERFS.
Lets say it didn’t help in the short term but did help in the long term as I knew wrong when I saw it.
I am sorry you had to deal with this pain. It is horrible on so many levels that there are literally no words to describe it.
Take care and if you consent to a hug ….. I have a few to give you.