I know the path, and the energy involved when their are emotions involved are tremendous.

The hard part in dealing with my het-relationship is trying to communicate something positive to my partner and not being full on stoic.

IMO, the habits that women innately have done for centuries "should be the norm".

The problem that I see is that one thing I found is it tamps down the desire and drive for intimacy in some areas of life (which sucks).

But while it maybe entertaining to some to see someone live on the edge, the reality is no one can live like that for long.

For me (what i have found) is as a guy, I have both feminine and masculine energies in me and the goal is to balance them to the best of my ability pulling from the positives a majority of the time.