I never desired nor wanted to "force" the issue of having my wife take my last name. It is her and she can do as she pleases.

Though I do get a chuckle when credit cards or what not come with my surname on it, but I end up calling them to get it fixed. The other fun thing is her name is very common, so with that commonality I also noticed her credit cards in her name get stolen far easier than mine. So I will tease her about it ... but that is the limit.

As for the naming ritual, the other thing I have an unfounded belief is that by having the child take the father's name it was meant to reduce inbreeding. Not saying it is right or wrong, just a belief.

My wife loves her identity and it is hers, and I would want her to change for me (and she is pretty traditional in a lot of way). Dunno, any guy that desires to conquer the person they sleep next to must be very stupidly confident in the wrong way ...

On the guy side though, if there are a lot of guys needing this to feel whole, it should be a "check engine" light for society to realize that there are a lot of lost guys without real/good confidence. That always spells trouble in the long run for a society ...

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