I never realized it was a thing, until a friend (gay) told me this.

See I was a nice guy, who saw a person in pain and not doing well (yelling at a person for a real issue), and so I got him a drink to say "feel better bud".

He later told me when he watched my drink (I know male privilege right), that he saw I was packing and he was like .. yum yum.

I didn't get it. I was like my better asset is my ass or maybe my smile whatever. Then I figured it out later, and you just confirmed it for me :)

Then now I totally appreciate what a black woman I was with said ... "white sugar has both back and front".

Yes I am a dense clueless man .... So thank you for the education!