I recommend you look into the feeldoe with a joque harness. This will allow you to feel penetrated and when you grind into your partner it will apply pressure from both sides (with vibrations).
If this doesn’t work for you, I recommend that you look at getting a vibrating clip which you can wear that stimulates the g-spot and clit while you take charge.
As I have shared some of the kinks before, I thought how amazing it would feel if I could feel my female partner get off hard while doing the penetration. Think about that aspect and angle …. if one wishes to practice safe sex there is no safer way than this.
Now on the flip side … imagine if you can train the guy to orgasm from his p-spot while you are getting off on your g-spot imagine that hot and wonderful mess, and when that occurs with the knowledge you literally always have a hard-on :) your poor partner won’t know hit them …. literally.