I see both sides of the equation now, and I am realizing the gifts I have with my not fun life.

I had to reboot and rebuild my masculinity, and it wasn't a given. I felt I had to wear masks as a CIS-male in patriarchal world, and then I realized that the things that made me special, were actually highly desirable and gifts. They were vulnerability, openness, empathy, and sensitivity. The things I had to hide, I figured out and it only happened because I did one simple thing.

I became a feminist.

I then started to unpack so many things and it was a lot of work and took a lot of time. (5 years actually). Now my only regret was not doing this earlier.

I support my partner with her not so successful business for decades. We moved to support her career and needs, even though honestly it is toxic to my body.

I started to actively look and work to promote women I believed in trusted. I started to write poetry and some edgy erotica based poems. I also started to share my observations.

I am a high tech software architect, who has a farm, and a relationship. But I also found my humanity.

What I want to do is lift up the women around me because I realized the thing I love the most.

The Feminine spirit which is in humans. I crave it as the missing piece of my masculinity, which I believe is quite strong.

I actually find great joy in service and love, and gasp found out controlling my base urges which are "high" actually power me to do some great things.

The other thing I found is when a woman truly feels safe, and secure and liberated. It is the most beautiful thing in the world. The fact that she can run free and do as she pleases, and desires to come back to me and spend time with me means.

I am a very strong masculine man. I am more and more thankful for every day I can help a woman rise above the rest, and for the guys that I meat that are good and real. I say hello brother.

I know we just met ... My poem Toxic Apocalypse is my rebirth.

I agree with you, men should learn that >1/2 a woman is a delight and a joy and a gift. Be a fully formed man because that is how you "can partner" up with one.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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