I stayed silent after getting rejected as “gay” by my feminist girlfriend [I am a feminist now so don’t put them down] (though not with a person in power) for over two decades and while I survived not killing myself, I slowly was killing myself through booze and embracing alpha natures.

So I have a saying, if women are hardly believed in our society (now), men are never believed.

I didn’t begin to heal until I shared, and I got why I was wearing a heavy coat of male fragility. Because for me it was a life-or-death situation, and was “real”. For others that don’t have that experience (men), they need to keep this in mind when thinking about how soul sucking and heart ripping and confidence destroying this all is.

To give you an example between this and other things in my life, picture as a guy the only way of being able to orgasm with a partner is through penetration and always being the last one to orgasm. That is the damage to intimacy and confidence this act did to me. So I see all the banter and chuckles from women and men who state how great (e.g.) oral is and I all I experience is a hard lockup ….

So if you are guy respect the person, respect the anger, allow the authorities and folks to research and deal with it. If the person is a narcissist and is using this, the truth always comes out.


Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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