I suggest for guys to read Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner. When reading it just observe the female characters and their experiences and think about what one would do in their shoes.
Both men and women have a shit show in our society. We both deserve better, and if equality is made/had, I think men are going to realize we really need women to help us because the stress of doing it all like women will cause us to die off a lot faster and will distress our society.
I made some observations (not saying all people fit the mold), but you every notice those guys that get it and live equally with their partners end up dying off faster …. e.g. Sheryl Sanderburg as a point example.
Attack less, listen more, and always talk (try not to blame) is my advice for guys.