I switched stances pro-life to pro-abortion, and even switched parties, and became a feminist. Also did a fuck ton of therapy.

Even as a pro-life person, I had a partner who aborted our child, but I didn't push my views and beliefs on her. I did request multiple times for her that I would raise it, adopt it and all that but no go.

She had it and I died inside.

Fast forward later in life, she asked me to have a child and wanted one, and I stated no thanks. While I honored her choice, what also was killed was my desire to be a parent. I couldn't lose another child (I can now that therapy is done).

Want to know what I did when she tried to "trick" me. I said no. I watched her cycle and avoided penetration during her peak periods.

I equate abortion to 2a in my mind. A woman should be able to self defender her body no matter what. As for morality, I am human and I am male, but I am not God or a higher power (if one believes in it), so I can't judge. Her actions are between her and God not me.

What I will say is I do own up to some of the abortion because she did not have the safety she needed from me as a man. If she did she wouldn't have felt not confident, so I will take that.

If I had the blessing of being able to birth a child, I would personally die first, but I can't so it is all hypothetical. Lastly, yes even if I was raped I would have it, but I would probably give it up for adoption (and yes I know what rape is like).

For folks that chant pro-life, but our pro-gun ownership and pro-death penalty, I would have to say one's moral redlines are very very "intersting" bordering on hypercritical ...

But in our country, life, liberaty and the pursuit of one's happiness is the goal ... but one can't push their belief or trauma for control over onto another .

Those that force it ... well ... they aren't great human beings.