I write erotic poetry, so the hardest part for me was to keep this hot and fun, but not too much since not everyone desires this openness.
I have been blessed in my life to have fantastic female friends and coworkers and others. I know how badly some women deeply desire to be liberated and free, but the fear (rightfully so) can mute the brightest of stars in the quietest of bodies muted by patriarchal forces and life as a whole.
If you do enjoy erotica, I write about a lot of different things (I am a pansexual and very open minded and I am not judgemental). Check out Marlene in a Pub, which BTW is the female editor of this pub's more "erotic" side.
On a personal front if I was single again, I feel I would be in luck, because I don't do quick and transactional. I need the same level of connection and trust that women do too. This is the greatest travesty of our modern society, because there are men that want the same thing as women. The issue is most of the guys like myself are not brash and bold like the most of the toxic ones ... So we float and sometimes are not seen, but .... well you know :D