If a male is threatened by a woman showing him desire and wanting a commitment with her taking the lead, then I might have to question how masculine he really is.

Gender based assumptions like this empower male fragility and toxic masculinity, because it states men should never feel what it is like to be desired. Also, it states men are incapable of communication and being able to share their feelings because they need to lead.

An authentic man should feel comfortable in leading or following as he knows his self worth, and doesn't require a knee validation to know this.

A feminine women should be able to be liberated, smart and able to ask for what she wants and have a man who has the ability to actively listen, take feedback, and not be "surprised" if the woman across from him desires him so much she is like "dude you are the one".

She should balance her lead along with his took, since partnerships should never be about competition.

If a couple is not actively talking and growing towards the milestones of relationships and it requires this power transfer to succeed, the relationship is built on a competition of power. Fantastics relationships always have partnerships and shared commitments.

Now it isn't a problem if as a woman you desire this, but realize as guys evolve, the luster and allure of marriage will dissipate and everyone will stay thirsty and angry and alone.