If both partners are not sharing the load equally it will fail, but men only “level up” if they see value in something. Right now the message being stated is this society has nothing of value to them.
I realize that message is highly negative and draped in privilege, but the message is simple.
I am proud of the achievements of women and want them to succeed, but you can’t wish men to want the same things. So biological men will do the bare minimum on average to get by, because that is when you do under times of rapid change and evolution.
It is ironic that technology and the internet turned traditional relationships upside down, by providing men a sex replacement through porn and apps which provide transactional sex.
So now you do have amazing women who are independent and wonderful sitting there either having to engage in transactional sex to get basic needs met ans wondering what the fuck.
I have an old adage that says you can tell where a society is on the verge of expansion or collapse on how well society raises boys to be men. Well the readers can guess where we are at.