Amber Cezanne IMO, it is the violation of couple privilege that exists in monogamy. It is a binary thing, you either have it or you don't there is no halfway. For me a lot of people may have assumed that they had an open marriage which removes some of the couple privilege and that it was consensual.
Well now we know it wasn't. It was a separation, and that is totally different due to honesty. That could be seen in his face.
Lets pretend in some parallel universe you and I were some celebrity super star couple, talking about your love for "Alex" the music stud. When it panned to me my response would have been , I am so happy my wife is having all her needs met and she is living a liberated life while married to me. As those talks are all about edge, I would have said whatever she needs if I can't provide it, it is a-ok as I am with a powerhouse woman and I am lucky to have her. If she got preganant that is ok too, I would love the child as my own.
Instead we got his pained look instead.
So lack of honesty andi integrity maybe an issue, and women can also see how men react and act with their maturity.
For quite a few women that probably is a pretty horrific thing ...
I have enjoyed your writing so the feeling is mutual. You are an amazing human being with a fantastic feminine view on things.