IMO this is where instead of labeling a group with a name that can be made very individualistic, we should maybe use the term toxic femininity to cover it as it can be a level of traits that are undesirable coming from women (like toxic masculinity).

Most folks I expect X, you give me Y, and then you attack me for responding to your failure to hold up your end (Z) by gross labeling me with a group that is racist, sexist, anti-feminist, whatever …..

Food for thought …. and with respect of course ….