In my anecdotal travels this is very much true, and with the media continuing to keep up with this because if we are honest how many positive and authentic masculinity views do we see in media?

The Man Box is as strong in 2021 as it was in the 2010s, 2000s, 1990s et.al.

I don't know if I can agree with the toxicity angle. I have been groped, gotten dick picks, and a variety of other things from gay men.

Even with my wife she follows a patriarchal trope and her words has actually killed intimacy multiple times. I learned a while back to say no. If I don't feel trusted, loved, or feel it, she gets no "d".

Is it healthy? No, but we all have our own relationship battles to fight. I suspect she gets if things end it will be hard for her, but I don't go in with a full ego.

As for CIS hetero males, the best thing you can do is if you truly do love women, and I mean love them. Become a feminist, get therapy to work on your issues, learn to communicate, and do your share to make sure their is balance in the relationship. Is it a lot of work? It is, but if you don't want to be lonely, relationships are a fuck ton of work.

To give you an example, my wife is at a horse show for three weeks. I take PTO to take over and manage the farm which she does. I had severe allergies, and when I moved to Texas they got worse due to the environment being horrible for folks with allergies. I had an immunotherapy shot that levels me 2-4x worse then some of the folks with COVID shots. I am out there with a P100 mask managing all of the horses and what not. I fight hard when my body rebels and make sure her dreams are met. I work on my shit, and deal. If we divorce or she passes, I know I will be in good shape for the next person because I know my masculinity.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.