It is because simply they know they are infantile and will never be enough. Some wise person stated that violence is the arena for people that have lost it mentally.

Well, given as a friend of mine (a single mom in NJ) who I worked with and actually helped her get a full-time job back after getting thwacked stupidly, said. Dicks are a dime a dozen, I give up.

This is a woman who loves sex, is very traditional and is all-in. She stated she loves giving men their space, just be respectful. She cried uncle about 6 months ago after being out there for about a year.

I want women to be empowered and safe and liberated. If they need multiple lovers, or couples privilege and an all-in male. Game on.

The thing is though that means raising the educational and mental bar. It also means learning too that there are women that really are not high-value women. In men, I will call them biological males as they have the privilege to their advantage. Women do not, so they are women just of varying values (enter the Karen's, the female narcissist, toxic cultures within femininity, etc).

So as a man if you elevate yourself, you will need to watch out for the tarpits along the way. For better or worse if you “do” do-the-work, your value will be elevated for the time being because frankly, most men are 1–4’s on the scale of life.

But let’s be honest … not all men put the work in (enter in more fear of failure). Now that women can achieve equality, they are using the last weapon in their arsenal. The ticking clock of a woman’s reproductive system. To me, that is a horrible weapon to use and frankly is just nasty.

There are others that just say fuck it all, i.e. the MGTOW folks, the incels, etc at one end, and the apathetic at the other end. This is the group that at best jack their way off to oblivion and become so numb to life, that if they do pop their head up, well they are useless to women.

What happens then? The balance for women is heavily screwed up and the competition inverses itself. I read and I believe I posted the math behind this, but college educators now are concerned once campuses go past 55% female to 45% male, because that is the point where men take huge advantage of women at their most vulnerable times. If I remember my thesis, it really starts to put men on a scale of 1–10 (which is horrible to denote people this way) into a position where there are effectively 2 women for every man.

So women have the power and authority and autonomy (yeah team women) but now men are shrugging their shoulders, which is epically sad. Win the bedroom, fail in the bedroom, cry and be depressed for at some point one asks what is the point.

The shrugging is the backlash to the empowerment and hard work women put in, and it is fucked up. Men should do the same. Drop the masks, deal with your shit, and move on.

Trust me whatever fear you have as a man if I can do it. So can you, as there is no competition with scars on your soul, but let me tell you … mine is pretty deep and I want a liberated and empowered woman in my life. If you don’t, well, question how much of a man you really are.




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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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