It is. I shared this with another writer. I am married and of course given a long term relationship it is rife with issues (we are talking multiple decades).
I do know if it ends, the first thing I do is review what happens, mourn, and then move on setting strong standards and letting my partners know in the future.
I personally spent a lot of money on therapy and time and energy rebuilding my masculinity. Any partner in my future needs to be high value because just like women have spent considerable energy on their femininity and life I have done so.
What I try to do for other guys that read that haven't spent the capital on their masculinity is share my story and experience so they can learn from it.
My view is when my masculinity and femininity are merged with another it will be a 1 + 1 = 3 situation.
On a funny note in the past my short joke about the whole situation of men and women was this:
Urban dictionary is wrong. Unicorn is not a woman, it is an emotionally available man.
I don't blame women for testing and setting standards at all. There are so many shallow masculine actors out there, one has too.
This will lead to some undesirable processes women may follow. If one thinks about it if one spends their entire time with a testing and failing structure with the relationship, those skills maybe great for the initial hunt. But will fail miserable when the relationship happens.
A woman forwarded some crazy website showing about expectations of some "low value" women who desire the three sixes in men (6-pack, 6-figures, 6-feet tall), and the amount of men that fit that mantra was very very small.
On a lark she asked me to put in my specifics (we are platonic friends), and I was 1.7% of the population, so I thanked her for the compliment app. (I still would get dinged since I am only 5'11".)
We are all human .... hopefully one day we can all treat everyone equally ...