It is interesting how our tastes and needs evolve over time. E.g. Blanket non-consented protectiveness (no), but consented to protectiveness, and chivalry that crosses both genders and experience with the individuality (commonly called kindness) ...

Variability and surprises in intimacy when consent has been negotiated 'great' .... will person x respond (i.e. lack of consistency) ...

Dresses well? Does the person take basic care of themselves and knows the right time and right place for it and respects themselves?

The benefit now versus 2019 is people have a better depth and respect given the strong life event we had, and with it hopefully a deeper humanity.

But some folks went the other direction ... also ... (not like you :) )