It is not a flaw, it is a sign of depth and character. As I shared I used to be a medium-ish valued fuck boy. I grew up. Now, I can get very excited, but for me to orgasm, I need feels. When I self love, it has to have a component of my partner enjoying it or sexual joy from service, it isn't about using another person. If that happens, I go flat and soft fast.

Can you image society and the trope with my view? Ha. I am the flawed one right? No, I am as guys should be. It doesn't require marriage, or long-term commitment, but it does take some form of attachment, otherwise it is just glorified mutual masturbation.

As I have shared, I am working on some tantric practices around men, and am pushing limits I have never done "ever" before. The growth I feel is on a level I can't describe, but the on TMI-ish share is, I want to be able to go the distance over and over, and make my partner tap-out from orgasms, with hopefully the tap out being when I lose it (or the first thing the next morning, where she can show her feminine prowl.

For some women who are like um ... kinky it bothers me and I can't do it (and I hope in a committed relationship one works out the why because with consent it should be natural and ok).

Simple twists can still be done. E.g. If we take the tantric practice view I stated, and then include missionary where the guy is on the bottom and the woman works into a "plank" ... Then she states.

Don't be a starfish honey ... do it.

One can have monogamy, vanilla (50 flavors mind you), and have a religions purity view yet be a wild liberated woman all at the same time.

See ... my view is women can do this very very well, because of the deep layers and hormonal training from a young age. This is impressive and a massive asset, and men should learn with the help of the female friends and partners to do the same for we are all human beings.

But shaming? Fuck no. Shaming is for the shallow, weak, insensitive, and fear based people who prefer sleeping with the trauma demon instead of another human being.

You are absolutely correct, the most important attribute in intimacy is what you called out. Several of my ex's have stated that about me personally ... one stated fuck I love my husband (years later) and he is amazing in bed, but he just doesn't have what we had for those torrid months .... curiosity.

You know what they say ... it kills cats ...