It is why, I limit more and more the interaction spaces I go into. This also includes political discussion and what not where bigotry and prejudice roam free.

If I become single again, to be honest I don't think I have any desire to join up on apps. The peacocking and what it rears up even me I don't want to be near that toxin.

I work on me and the relationships I have every day. The thing is given I work hard at a full time job, engage and do the required adulting, and take the time to educate myself on feminism, women's issues and minorities issues ... TBH there isn't much left in the tank at the end of each day.

I know the plight of women and the shit storm they have to deal with is exponentially harder, but the hell scape I can share as a man equally sucks.

Relatinoships are not a competition they are a partnership which requires give and take. It requires empaty and love and communication and understanding.

What spews from peoples mouths across the social and internet universe is deeply dark and awful. As I had to fight 100% alone with the deep dark abyss telling me I was not a man and looking in the mirror and hearing that men are evil ...

It was why when I was on the road I drank two full bottles of booze at restaurants, and had 2-3 little bottles on each segment when flying on Monday's and Friday's. (It was common for me to have to go through two hubs to fly places so you do the math).

I got out of it not by being an ass and pushing my deepest and darkest trauma on others. I got a therapist, worked on my health issues, became a feminist, learned to ask for help and then the most important .... found good people to create a better circle.

This literally took 5-6 years, but I got out of the mess. Ossiana is one such person I deem high quality.

I poked my head back into places I used to frequent and shared my political views on economic things, and I got to see "strong" and "good" people spouting prejudice and bias and a lack of empathy and intelligence. But the most important thing I saw was a lack of humbleness ... and at that point I was like "ok" ... and ... goodbye enjoy being a troll.

In the scope of this article, the highest form these guys can learn to be is a troll. They are deserving of the female troll or women that act horribly to satisfy their male thrist from men that aren't really men.

Be well and excellent article.

On a funny note, in my fantasy based feminist utopia, I thought wouldn't it be nice if a man could be tested on his empathy, sympathy and authentic masculinity and then have a group of feminist arrange effective relationships for him.

But since that is kind of childish and sketching around the men can't be effective adults, I will just try to be a good person with my empathy and kindness and do the best I can ...