It was scientifically found that women need twice the levels of dopamine and attention and care to get satisfied due to brain structure. However, once the “fire” is lit, it burns brighter, hotter, and longer and is far more powerful, especially if the woman is heterosexual. That doesn’t mean homosexual woman can’t hit that level but it requires additional toys to hit that biologically.
Men on the flip side due to brain structure from a female’s view requires 1/2 as much and from that perspective can lead to a WTF point of view in a lot of cases. So this leads to a disconnect which makes it harder.
But most people vilify and make dirty “sex” as an act, in which we should not since the real thing we should vilify is violence and neglect.
If there is a baseline of consent (this presumes a relationship), sex should be practiced actually more often. Anything that incorporates touch, talk, and action between two individual should be practiced more like exercise for the body. If people say I don’t have the time or whatever … do it first thing in the morning and both partners should ensure the other gets off. If we go “traditional” and assume the women take the longer, then two options. He needs to go down or use toys to ensure his partner gets off -or- if he sports “the morning wood”, grab lube, mount up and if he completes, then he has to turn around and take care of her. Some guys will say “eww”, but my response would be …. she took care of you first you can deal with it after. IF you don’t like it … take care of her first.
Now that was a long description of some tangent items.
Talk, communicate, and “do” …. if a person is not willing to be there for their partner … then it isn’t a partnership worth having.
If a person is unconnected then this won’t work, and then the full workload of communication needs to be done up front before sex …